This excerpt is from my book Lessons I Learned From Loving You: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Healing scheduled for 2022 release. The first year is the hardest when someone dies. Darren died in October, and soon I had to face the holidays without him. There was happiness all around me but not for me.…
This excerpt is from my book Lessons I Learned From Loving You: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Healing scheduled for 2022 release. Grief is so hard and people are often at a loss about what to say or do. These tips are designed to help you comfort someone who is going through grief in your…
This pandemic has made people realize the importance of relationships with family and friends. For months most of the country was sequestered in their homes only to come out to go to the store or to the doctor. Zoom became the thing to do and has forever altered how we communicate. As the mask mandates…
Ruby Williams Shivers is the author of the newly released, Why Shouldn’t I Cry? Ode to the Black Man, available on Amazon. This book talks about Black love with a focus on Black men who have been so misunderstood. She coined the phrase African Slave Virus 401, to explain the impacts that slavery, Jim Crowism…
There can be no healing without forgiveness. The simple act of letting go of past hurts has the power to move you forward. Forgiveness is not forgetting; forgiveness is agreeing to move on without bitterness and hate in your heart. I heard a wonderful message on this topic from Rupert A. Hayles, Jr, the Chief Operating Officer at Pillar College, a…
This topic came to me after I was speaking with a man I was interested in. When he found out how I was voting he ridiculed me and told me that I needed to read. This reaction was so unexpected. Up until that we had that conversation things had been cool with us. We never…
I haven’t posted in almost six weeks because I needed a mental health break. This hiatus was due to the loss of my beloved friend I’ll call Paul. He was a church leader and an all-around wonderful man. I was looking forward to seeing him for services when in-person gatherings are permitted when I got…
The terrifying thing about starting a relationship is imagining its ending. And unfortunately (or fortunately depending on the situation) most relationship don’t last. Sometimes you don’t see the ending coming. One day things are great and then the two of you are fighting over something trivial and the relationship ends. In the past, the end…
Dating is hard for everyone because people don’t present their true self. Male friends are great because they give a different perspective of relationships. I got these tips from asking men what turns them off. Check out my next post of what turns them on. #1 Being Too Possessive Everyone women doesn’t want your man.…
Work friendships are important to business success.