Black Love Tips From Author Ruby Williams Shivers❤️
Ruby Williams Shivers is the author of the newly released, Why Shouldn’t I Cry? Ode to the Black Man, available on Amazon. This book talks about Black love with a focus on Black men who have been so misunderstood. She coined the phrase African Slave Virus 401, to explain the impacts that slavery, Jim Crowism has had on Black people who have been systematically dehumanized. Ms. Ruby says that although slavery existed in the past it was never carried out to a degree that it was in the United States.
Ms. Ruby admits that although she has studied Black history she is an amateur and not an expert “I”m expert in living Black because I live black every day but I am not an expert in Black living.”
Then she talks about the influence of Black men in her life and her own love story with her husband Pete. They were married for 55 years before he passed. Of course, I had to ask the question, “What makes a good relationship?” Please keep reading for her tips.
Ms. Ruby’s tip #1 Marriage is a Give and Take
Black people must understand their history and the impact of slavery, Jim Crowism, and racism has had on their relationships. Ms. Ruby says that the Black experience is unique but even with the cruelties Black people are loving. There are a lot of myths about Black love but women shouldn’t give up on the hope of finding healthy Black love.
Ms. Ruby’s tip #2 Marriage is a Give and Take
That means that you have to give a little and take a little. It’s about being understanding and realizing particularly marriage is not perfect. It’s a relationship that is always being built on.
Ms. Ruby’s Tip #3 The Foundation of a Good Relationship is Love
You got to love each other. It is hard living with anybody as two people who come together will have different ideas. You have to like the person before you love them. Once you like them, the love develops and you can deal with the challenges in the relationship.
Ms. Ruby’s tip #4 Good Communication Requires Listening
It is not important to have the last word in every argument. Listening is underrated in relationships. You have to listen and try to understand the other person’s point of review. Respect is an essential aspect of any relationship. You have to respect the person point of view even if it is not yours.
Ms. Ruby’s tip #4 Be Prepared to Honor Your Vows
This means to value the commitment you made to each other at the very beginning. This cements the relationship. When her husband got sick she stood by his side and was his comfort during difficult times. Relationships have ups and downs from sickness, financial issues, and the stress of life.
Candace Waller is a Christian fiction author. Her novel, What Goes Around Comes Around can be purchased on Amazon. Her new book Good Things Comes, a sequel to What Goes Around Comes Around, is available for preorder on Amazon.