The 3 Things Men Want in a Relationship ❤️
In my previous post, I talk about the three things women want in a relationship. I wanted to turn my attention in this post to the three things men want in a relationship. What I have found is that women and men basically want the same things in a relationship.
When I was reading Paul Carrick Brunson book It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be) , he said that research supports the fact that men and women are similar in their wants for love, despite popular notions in the past. We all want to feel supported and appreciated. Sex is important but it has its place, and some people from both genders use sex as a way to control or sway the other person.
My dating history included many mistakes regarding sex. We are taught as a society that sex is the greatest thing in a relationship, and there are wonderful feelings associated with this. However, sex too early or without support, security, friendship and genuine love can create havoc for both sexes.
Alfred Edmond Jr. who wrote Loving in the Grown Zone with his wife Zara emphasizes the importance of self love for both sexes. Men can also be damaged by love. I am really enjoying his book and will be posting a review in the upcoming weeks.
So, what do men want in a relationship? In my post, 3 Things Women Want in a Relationship, I talked about support, security and sex. Notice that sex is last. The order of the words are not an accident. A woman must feel supported and have security before sex in healthy adult relationships. Men also have the need for support. My male friends that they want a women with a brain who will be there friend. Continue reading for more details on their wants.
A friend of mine shared with me the three basic things that kept her relationship so fulfilling. I had never heard of these needs put together in this way of this before. I did a poll of my male friends and found that man of them agreed with her findings. These three things were so simplistic but covered the basic needs of men.
Feed Me
This doesn’t just refer to food. Men want to be feed emotionally. They want their women to listen to them and be their friend and confidant. Men don’t open up as easily as woman. They need to feel secure in their partner before they will share their thoughts and emotions. This is an important part of bonding, and develops over time. Rushing into sex too quickly will not speed up this process
Fuck Me
Physical intimacy is important to men but, this stage should not be rushed. Sometimes women are too quick to give it up before determining the wants and needs of the men. Edmond cautions women in Loving in the Grown Zone to qualify their relationship before parting with money, love, home and sex.
Women have to be patient if they want to build a healthy relationship. It is imperative that you are friends with the man first, and men indeed want to be friends with their partners. Developing a strong friendship will enhance he physical side of the relationship.
Don’t Fuck With Me
Men need time to be by themselves. One of my males friends said that he wants to be left alone to just be. Men can be drained from women who talk too much, and have the constant need to be around their man. I tried this out accidentally in my relationship. I was working on a project and wasn’t around much. To my sweet surprise, my man missed me. It was incredibly sweet. I found it healthy to encourage him to do things and be with his friends without me.
There is some truth to the saying that “distance makes the heart grow fonder.” It is healthy to have outside interests when you are in a committed relationship. Men need to to be with their friends. And if your man is making you feel secure (check out my post the 3 things what women want), there isn’t a need for you to worry if her man wants to spend time with a friend.
Do you agree with the findings I have in this post? Please let me know in the comments.