Dating Myself: My Experience at Medieval Times❤️
Last summer I was on a quest to find summer love. I read two really good relationship books. (I highly recommend Loving in the Grown Zone by Alfred Edmond Jr and his wife Zora D. Green and It’s Complicated But It Doesn’t Have to Be: The Guide to Finding Love by Paul Carrick Brunson.) I went on a few dates, contemplated setting up online profiles but then lost interest.
Setting up coffee dates was really fun. (You can ready more about my adventures about Don’t Be Afraid of No.) I got to talk to interesting people but these situations never went anywhere. I don’t talk to one man, kind of friends with another and one man just disappeared.
I feel I am a reasonably attractive woman that can hold interesting conversation with no major issues so what was going on with my dating life? Why did it seem like I was doing all the pursuing? Why weren’t men asking me out? I ponder these thoughts for a bit but then got distracted by life.
This summer I got super involved with my book promotion for my debut novel What Goes Around Comes Around, writing the sequel, Good Things Comes and celebrating my 10th anniversary for my not-for-profit dance group Why We Dance. In my whirlwind of activities a good friend who is also a wonderful blogger asked me to attend an behind the scenes event at Medieval Times. I was intrigued. I had never been to Medieval Times so I did a survey of my associates to get their input. Everyone encouraged me to go.
The Medieval Times features kings and queens, nights and horses in a castle. I had a wonderful time at the event and was so thankful that my bestie gifted me this opportunity. I was also so happy to see her. We speak on the phone but with our schedules haven’t had the time to see each other person for more than 8 years.
This date for myself encouraged me to enjoy my own company and that of one with friends without the added pressure of romance. I have fournd that sometimes in relationships something gets lost and that something is me. Atteding this event reminded me that I am fun to be around and I don’t have to wait for a man to validate who I am.
I had great conversation with my friend and my family. I learned interesting facts. And most importantly I laughed at antics in the Medieval Times show. Getting out of the house for social fun was wonderful as well. These are all important things for healthy mental health. I don’t have to wait for some guy to ask me out or agonize on asking someone out. Those things are so last year :).
My new motto is to enjoy the moment and to see what comes. It would be wonderful to find a great relationship but I cannot put my life on hold until that comes. I have to live now. The next moment is not promised to us. I am a fully, functional human being responsible for my own happiness.
This life is meant to be lived and enjoyed, so let the positive experiences come.